Libido, Sex Drive, Desire… as a society we put so much weight on the pressure to have an abundance of this ethereal thing, that we can feel a real deep loss when it wanes.
Cyan shares with us their story, as she’s takes steps to rediscover, heal, and explore her own changing relationship to sex.
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↓ Comic Transcript
Lacking Libido by Cyan, published June 16, 2026 on ohjoysextoy.com
Cyan draws in a soft, round, cartoony style with a natural watercolor texture in a blue palette with pink accents.
Page 1
Narration: I once suffered an event that I will call "The Bad Time"
Cyan smiles a little nervously at the reader with her arms crossed over her chest. The sides of her head are shaved with a big poof of curly hair growing down the center that cascades down one side of her head.
Narration: It never seemed to affect me much after. I got married and lived my life like usual.
Cyan holds the hand of her partner happily as they give the thumbs-up gesture to each other. Her Partner has poofy hair and a beard.
Narration: Then one day my sex drive just vanished. I constantly turned my partner down.
The partner holds up a vibrating vibrator and a chain of condom packages with an inviting look, while Cyan smiles uncomfortably back at him, looking unsure of herself.
Narration: To make up for my lack of Libido, I began to say yes, whenever I could muster up the willpower, and "perform" (often badly).
In bed, Cyan lays under her partner with her arms around his neck while he props himself up over her on his own arms.
"You don't seem into this." He says.
"Whaaaat? No way, fuck me!" Cyan insists with an unsure smile.
Narration: Sex became a huge stressor for me, which just made me even less horny.
Cyan frets as she is encircled by mean-looking sex toys and accessories who smile threateningly at her.
To the reader, Cyan says, "I wondered if I was asexual, but that didn't seem right either." as a little striped Asexual flag with a question mark floats between her hands.
Narration: My Bad Time loomed over me like an anvil.
A giant anvil labeled "TRAUMA" falls from the sky, a second away from landing right on Cyan's innocent head.
Narration: My partner began to feel unwanted, and it killed me to see him hurt. But he was still kind and gentle with me the whole time.
In bed, the two hold each other sadly.
Narration: I began searching for a therapist who specialized in sexual trauma and relationships.
Along a corridor with photos of various therapists (General Anxiety, PTSD, Autism/OCD) she selects the portrait of a spikey-haired, bespectacled therapist who is labeled "Sex Trauma/Relationships"
Page 2
Narration: I told her about how I used to really enjoy sex... I didn't understand why I was starting to freeze up.
Over a video call, the therapist cheerily explains, "I like to think of sex drive like a car. Let's call it the Brake System. For some of us, any kind of stress can make us absolutely slam on the brakes. This can even be caused by something small like a messy house."
Inside of a basic human head we see the interior of a car, complete with driver's seat, steering wheel, and brakes. A cartoon-y brain grimaces and frets as it slams down on the brakes.
The therapist's narration continues over a scene of Cyan and her partner getting up first thing in the morning, saying, "Others might have hardly any brakes and a sensitive gas pedal. Just the thought of their Lover can cause their sex drive to floor it!"
Cyan scratches her butt, her eyes barely open and with a giant case of bedhead.
"Hubba hubba!" thinks her partner who is agog with her beauty and sports a boner to match.
Narration: Each time I had sex when I wasn't really into it, my body slammed on my brakes harder and harder.
In her head, Cyan imagines a car SKREETCHing to a dramatic halt, even though she says, "Let's bone!" with a thumbs-up to her partner.
"Are you sure?" He asks, holding a row of condoms but not convinced she means it.
"Nope!" She cheerfully confirms.
Back in her therapy session again, the therapist says, "I'll give you some exercises to help you try and relax your brakes, but you need to do this for yourself, not because you want to please your partner."
"I want to do it for me!" Cyan eagerly agrees.
Page 3
Title: Sexy Experiments for the Stressed
*Disclaimer: each of these should be performed under ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT from all parties!
Narration: The first exercise I was given was to share a list of pre-chosen turn-ons with my partner. We rated each of these turn-ons with red, yellow, and green lights.
A floating list titled "Turn-Ons!" lists:
-Spanking
-Making out
-Dirty Talk
-Pet Names
-BDSM
-Blindfold
A floating stoplight blinks through red, yellow, and green lights.
Narration: After filling them out, we got cozy and shared our results. We found there were quite a few turn-ons that neither of us had ever expressed to the other.
Sitting and reclining fully clothed on their bed, they read their lists aloud to each other.
"Blindfolds are green!" The partner enthuses.
"Agreed!" Agrees Cyan.
Narration: It got us excited to try new things and helped me relax knowing what we both wanted.
The two of them daydream with starts in their eyes about the various sex accessories and toys they'd like to try with each other.
Narration: Other Exercises...*
*All with "no sex" rule that removed the pressure to "perform" and helped me stay in the moment.
-Make out!
-Naked Cuddles!
-Sharing our fave porn/erotica!
Standing full nude except for a sash that reads, "In Charge", Cyan proudly announces, "The most important rule was that Only I Am Allowed to Initiate Sex."
"Consent is sexy!" Agrees her equally-naked partner, who gives the double thumbs-up.
Page 4
Full clothed again, Cyan tells the reader, "After a few months of this, I had my first big breakthrough."
Narration: My partner decided that we deserved a romantic weekend and booked us a night in a ritzy hotel.
Soaking in opposite ends of a full bubble bath, her partner declares, "I love you!"
"I love you too!" She replies.
Narration: We took a bubble bath in the fancy tub, ate some weed gummies* to really relax, and just loved on each other.
Caption: *Partake responsibly y'all!
Narration: I was fully relaxed for the first time in years.
Cyan reclines on the bed in a big, poofy bathrobe, looking perfectly content.
Narration: Not only that but...
Suddenly, her eyes snap open.
With great enthusiasm she slinks into a sexy lounging position and announces, "I FEEL HORNY!"
"This horny revolution opened the flood gates- and vaginal walls." She winks to the reader while getting railed in the doggy position by her partner.
Narration: For weeks, I jumped on every chance I could to learn more about my body and sexual desires...
With a blindfold on, she kneels in the nude wearing an eager, expectant smile.
Narration: ...much to my partner's great joy.
Post-Doing-It, her partner flumps on his back in the bed, drunk on happiness and sex.
Narration: Finally, I felt like I was floating, instead of falling.
Cyan blissfully flies through the sky, in the nude.
Page 5
Narration: It's been one year since I started Sex Therapy.
Sitting at her laptop, Cyan leans against her now-cracked trauma anvil as she talks with her therapist through the computer.
Narration: I still have what I refer to as "dry spells."
"Afternoon quickie?" Asks her partner as the two of them game with their control pads.
"Nah, maybe later." She replies with a content smile.
"Alright." He agrees with his own smile.
Narration: But since we feel so confident in our sex life, it's not an issue when it happens. We just enjoy each other instead. I'm currently working on being able to orgasm with my partner.
The couple sit side-by-side, completely naked. They both shrug with one hand while the other plays with their respective bits, each looking unimpressed.
Narration: Mutual masturbation has been fun but unsuccessful for me so far.
Leaning into his bare chest, Cyan smiles, "But each time I get more relaxed and confident!"
Narration: Sex should be relaxing, not a performance piece!
A montage of various sexual scenarios plays out. In one she is blindfolded, in the next she and her partner cuddle together, in the third she winks lustily as her partner eats her out.
Narration: If you're experiencing any kind of sexual dysfunction, you might want to give some of these exercises a try with your partner - or on your own!
"I've got a very green light." Cyan coos seductively at her partner while she holds a vibrator and a dildo in her hands.
"Hell yeah!" He agrees, giving the thumbs-up with hearts in his eyes.
Transcribed by Erika Moen on June 15, 2026
Cyan draws in a soft, round, cartoony style with a natural watercolor texture in a blue palette with pink accents.
Page 1
Narration: I once suffered an event that I will call "The Bad Time"
Cyan smiles a little nervously at the reader with her arms crossed over her chest. The sides of her head are shaved with a big poof of curly hair growing down the center that cascades down one side of her head.
Narration: It never seemed to affect me much after. I got married and lived my life like usual.
Cyan holds the hand of her partner happily as they give the thumbs-up gesture to each other. Her Partner has poofy hair and a beard.
Narration: Then one day my sex drive just vanished. I constantly turned my partner down.
The partner holds up a vibrating vibrator and a chain of condom packages with an inviting look, while Cyan smiles uncomfortably back at him, looking unsure of herself.
Narration: To make up for my lack of Libido, I began to say yes, whenever I could muster up the willpower, and "perform" (often badly).
In bed, Cyan lays under her partner with her arms around his neck while he props himself up over her on his own arms.
"You don't seem into this." He says.
"Whaaaat? No way, fuck me!" Cyan insists with an unsure smile.
Narration: Sex became a huge stressor for me, which just made me even less horny.
Cyan frets as she is encircled by mean-looking sex toys and accessories who smile threateningly at her.
To the reader, Cyan says, "I wondered if I was asexual, but that didn't seem right either." as a little striped Asexual flag with a question mark floats between her hands.
Narration: My Bad Time loomed over me like an anvil.
A giant anvil labeled "TRAUMA" falls from the sky, a second away from landing right on Cyan's innocent head.
Narration: My partner began to feel unwanted, and it killed me to see him hurt. But he was still kind and gentle with me the whole time.
In bed, the two hold each other sadly.
Narration: I began searching for a therapist who specialized in sexual trauma and relationships.
Along a corridor with photos of various therapists (General Anxiety, PTSD, Autism/OCD) she selects the portrait of a spikey-haired, bespectacled therapist who is labeled "Sex Trauma/Relationships"
Page 2
Narration: I told her about how I used to really enjoy sex... I didn't understand why I was starting to freeze up.
Over a video call, the therapist cheerily explains, "I like to think of sex drive like a car. Let's call it the Brake System. For some of us, any kind of stress can make us absolutely slam on the brakes. This can even be caused by something small like a messy house."
Inside of a basic human head we see the interior of a car, complete with driver's seat, steering wheel, and brakes. A cartoon-y brain grimaces and frets as it slams down on the brakes.
The therapist's narration continues over a scene of Cyan and her partner getting up first thing in the morning, saying, "Others might have hardly any brakes and a sensitive gas pedal. Just the thought of their Lover can cause their sex drive to floor it!"
Cyan scratches her butt, her eyes barely open and with a giant case of bedhead.
"Hubba hubba!" thinks her partner who is agog with her beauty and sports a boner to match.
Narration: Each time I had sex when I wasn't really into it, my body slammed on my brakes harder and harder.
In her head, Cyan imagines a car SKREETCHing to a dramatic halt, even though she says, "Let's bone!" with a thumbs-up to her partner.
"Are you sure?" He asks, holding a row of condoms but not convinced she means it.
"Nope!" She cheerfully confirms.
Back in her therapy session again, the therapist says, "I'll give you some exercises to help you try and relax your brakes, but you need to do this for yourself, not because you want to please your partner."
"I want to do it for me!" Cyan eagerly agrees.
Page 3
Title: Sexy Experiments for the Stressed
*Disclaimer: each of these should be performed under ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT from all parties!
Narration: The first exercise I was given was to share a list of pre-chosen turn-ons with my partner. We rated each of these turn-ons with red, yellow, and green lights.
A floating list titled "Turn-Ons!" lists:
-Spanking
-Making out
-Dirty Talk
-Pet Names
-BDSM
-Blindfold
A floating stoplight blinks through red, yellow, and green lights.
Narration: After filling them out, we got cozy and shared our results. We found there were quite a few turn-ons that neither of us had ever expressed to the other.
Sitting and reclining fully clothed on their bed, they read their lists aloud to each other.
"Blindfolds are green!" The partner enthuses.
"Agreed!" Agrees Cyan.
Narration: It got us excited to try new things and helped me relax knowing what we both wanted.
The two of them daydream with starts in their eyes about the various sex accessories and toys they'd like to try with each other.
Narration: Other Exercises...*
*All with "no sex" rule that removed the pressure to "perform" and helped me stay in the moment.
-Make out!
-Naked Cuddles!
-Sharing our fave porn/erotica!
Standing full nude except for a sash that reads, "In Charge", Cyan proudly announces, "The most important rule was that Only I Am Allowed to Initiate Sex."
"Consent is sexy!" Agrees her equally-naked partner, who gives the double thumbs-up.
Page 4
Full clothed again, Cyan tells the reader, "After a few months of this, I had my first big breakthrough."
Narration: My partner decided that we deserved a romantic weekend and booked us a night in a ritzy hotel.
Soaking in opposite ends of a full bubble bath, her partner declares, "I love you!"
"I love you too!" She replies.
Narration: We took a bubble bath in the fancy tub, ate some weed gummies* to really relax, and just loved on each other.
Caption: *Partake responsibly y'all!
Narration: I was fully relaxed for the first time in years.
Cyan reclines on the bed in a big, poofy bathrobe, looking perfectly content.
Narration: Not only that but...
Suddenly, her eyes snap open.
With great enthusiasm she slinks into a sexy lounging position and announces, "I FEEL HORNY!"
"This horny revolution opened the flood gates- and vaginal walls." She winks to the reader while getting railed in the doggy position by her partner.
Narration: For weeks, I jumped on every chance I could to learn more about my body and sexual desires...
With a blindfold on, she kneels in the nude wearing an eager, expectant smile.
Narration: ...much to my partner's great joy.
Post-Doing-It, her partner flumps on his back in the bed, drunk on happiness and sex.
Narration: Finally, I felt like I was floating, instead of falling.
Cyan blissfully flies through the sky, in the nude.
Page 5
Narration: It's been one year since I started Sex Therapy.
Sitting at her laptop, Cyan leans against her now-cracked trauma anvil as she talks with her therapist through the computer.
Narration: I still have what I refer to as "dry spells."
"Afternoon quickie?" Asks her partner as the two of them game with their control pads.
"Nah, maybe later." She replies with a content smile.
"Alright." He agrees with his own smile.
Narration: But since we feel so confident in our sex life, it's not an issue when it happens. We just enjoy each other instead. I'm currently working on being able to orgasm with my partner.
The couple sit side-by-side, completely naked. They both shrug with one hand while the other plays with their respective bits, each looking unimpressed.
Narration: Mutual masturbation has been fun but unsuccessful for me so far.
Leaning into his bare chest, Cyan smiles, "But each time I get more relaxed and confident!"
Narration: Sex should be relaxing, not a performance piece!
A montage of various sexual scenarios plays out. In one she is blindfolded, in the next she and her partner cuddle together, in the third she winks lustily as her partner eats her out.
Narration: If you're experiencing any kind of sexual dysfunction, you might want to give some of these exercises a try with your partner - or on your own!
"I've got a very green light." Cyan coos seductively at her partner while she holds a vibrator and a dildo in her hands.
"Hell yeah!" He agrees, giving the thumbs-up with hearts in his eyes.
Transcribed by Erika Moen on June 15, 2026
