How To Organise A Munch by Dastardly_Devil
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Hungry for a little more kink in your community? A munch is a casual, low-pressure way for kinky folks to meet, chat, and make connections without turning the evening into anything more. In this five-page guide, Dastardly_devil digs into the basics of organizing your own, from finding a venue to making everyone feel welcome. Come on in. The munch is fine!
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Page 1
How to Organise a Munch by Dastardly_devil published 2026-09-29 on https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/how-to-organise-a-munch-dastardly-devil
Dastardly Devil illustrates his comic in a simple, cartoony style with thin textured lines and a color palette of plums and pinks.
"Hey, long time no see!" Greets a maroon-skinned devil cis man wearing jeans and a t-shirt. He sits at the welcome table at a bustling event in a bar, waving at a couple that's just walked in.
"Heeeey!" Waves one half of the couple with their free hand, while their other reassuringly guides their shy partner in by the shoulder. The more outgoing person has a shaved head with a big poof of curly bangs in front. They wear fingerless gloves, big round glasses, petite earrings, and a t-shirt tucked into their belted pants. Their shy companion also has a shaved head and ear piercings, in addition to a labret stud, studded dog collar around their neck and tank top straps visible through the neck of their baggy t-shirt.
Sliding over a name tag on the tabletop, Dastardly_devil asks the nervous guy, "First time?"
"Y-yes." They answer, sweating.
"WELCOME!" Dastardly_devil booms jovially, and then gestures at a sign on the wall. "Here are the rules:"
The sign lists:
-No play
-No touching another without consent
-No kinkshaming
-Keep the name tag on.
"If you're too shy to talk," He continues. "I can introduce you. If you have any questions or troubles, come talk to me!"
Gathering some courage, the shy guy ventures, "...What does 'no play' mean?"
The confident friend is eagerly filling out a name tag as Dastardly_devil answers, "Play is when people practice BDSM or kink. This event is a munch, it's only for meeting and talking."
"See," The confident friend says as they affix the name tag to the shy person. "I told ya!"
Looking somewhat relieved but still sweating, the shy friend answers, "Oh, Ok..."
Draping themself over their shy friend, the extrovert bemoans, "There's only play events in our town. We haven't dared go yet."
"Ah, it can be intimidating. But a munch is a good place to start!" The devil encourages.
"Wish it was closer though..." Groans the extroverted person.
"You could always make your own event, you know." Suggests Dastardly_devil.
"EEEEEH, REALLY?" They answer.
Page 2
Caption: #1 LOCALE
The two newbies follow Dastardly_devil as he leads them through the bar, explaining, "A munch is just a meetup for kinky people! It can be as simple as reserving a table at a bar or restaurant. I like to have a space separate from the rest of the bar, so people can feel safe talking about kink without worrying about being overheard."
A caption floats over a cross-section of the two-story bar, stating: Here's how I organise my event: I reserve the second floor of the bar, every first Tuesday of the month. We usually get around 60 people.
Dastardly_devil pops into the panel from the side, explaining, "I post the event on Fetlife."
Caption: I sit at the entrance to greet people and explain the rules. The rest of the bar is open as usual, so people have name tags to know who is here for the munch. Then I walk around to chat and check up on people.
Looking over the balcony's handrail, the outgoing person asks, "But isn't hosting this at someone's place easier to avoid drawing attention?"
"You can," He agrees. "but being in a public place allows for less pressure. People can come and go as they please here."
Page 3
Caption: #2 STRUCTURE
As they continue walking around the bar, patrons greet each other and chat.
"Next you'll want to think about how to organise your event!" Continues Dastardly_devil.
"Do I have to lead the conversation?" The shy guy asks, nervously.
"There's plenty of ways to do it!" He replies enthusiastically. "For example:"
A series of signs are taped to the wall, announcing:
"Free for all - people talk to whomever they wish."
"Bring toys for show and tell."
"People submit questions to be picked and discussed."
"Have a theme for the day."
"Do an introduction circle!"
"Is the event centered on a specific kink or community? (latex, shibari, etc.)
With a drink freshly acquired at the bar counter, Dastardly_devil explains, "Play events are a different beast to tackle, lots more things to think about. My munch is: Everyone is welcome, free for all, and toys allowed upstairs for show only."
"Ooooh!" The two newbies exclaim as they read the signs and wait for their own drinks.
"You also have to set a date!" He points out. "Making an event regular is important to cultivate community. It makes it easier for people to form bonds."
The shy guy takes a sip of their drink while the extrovert spots an old friend.
"HEEEYY!!" The reuniting friends squeal at each other.
Page 4
Caption: #3: COMMUNITY"
"What about people who are too shy to talk?" The introverted person asks, hanging back as their companion and the returning friend talk enthusiastically with each other.
Taking a sip from his drink, he answers, "Ideally, participants will do their part to integrate newcomers. You can cultivate that atmosphere. For a community to thrive, people need to feel welcomed and safe. Greeting everyone, introducing people to tables if they wish it, and checking up on people is my way to do that." Frustration falls over his face and his grip on his glass tightens. "Making sure everyone knows basic consent is the most important. Should be taught in #%$ school..." He mutters to himself, the glass cracking under the strain of his grip.
Not noticing the devil's restraint, the shy guy keeps his eyes on his drink as he asks, "You must get a lot of stupid questions from newbies..."
"There are no stupid questions!" The devil announces with passion, striking a determined stance.
"O... ok..." Gulps the shy guy.
Returning to his composed state, the devil leans against the bar, musing, "...It can be a lot." His cracked class leaks liquid onto the countertop. "You get attention. Being an organiser means becoming a public figure. That brings social clout, but also responsibility and scrutiny. How you wield that power will reflect on you and your event."
Page 5
"But, an event isn't just about the organiser!" He continues, completely back to his normal, friendly demeanor. "It's the people who make a community successful. Think about what kind of event you'd like to go to, how you'd like to be engaged, and go from there."
"But what if I'm too awkward to bring people together?" Frets the shy guy.
Gesturing at himself, Dastardly_devil asserts, "If I can, so can you! I had never hosted one before. I was the shy nerd who didn't know how to talk to people. (still am!) I wanted a place where you could meet friends, talk about kink and sex, and be yourself. Three years later, the community here has been fantastic. I've made many friends I would have never met otherwise."
"There you are!" The extroverted friend says, clasping their hand on the shy guy's shoulder and then looping their arm through their's to drag them off to join a group of chatting people. "Come say hi!"
"(Thanks!)" The shy guy whispers to the devil as they're pulled to join the group.
Transcribed by Erika Moen on September 28, 2026 for https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/how-to-organise-a-munch-dastardly-devil
How to Organise a Munch by Dastardly_devil published 2026-09-29 on https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/how-to-organise-a-munch-dastardly-devil
Dastardly Devil illustrates his comic in a simple, cartoony style with thin textured lines and a color palette of plums and pinks.
"Hey, long time no see!" Greets a maroon-skinned devil cis man wearing jeans and a t-shirt. He sits at the welcome table at a bustling event in a bar, waving at a couple that's just walked in.
"Heeeey!" Waves one half of the couple with their free hand, while their other reassuringly guides their shy partner in by the shoulder. The more outgoing person has a shaved head with a big poof of curly bangs in front. They wear fingerless gloves, big round glasses, petite earrings, and a t-shirt tucked into their belted pants. Their shy companion also has a shaved head and ear piercings, in addition to a labret stud, studded dog collar around their neck and tank top straps visible through the neck of their baggy t-shirt.
Sliding over a name tag on the tabletop, Dastardly_devil asks the nervous guy, "First time?"
"Y-yes." They answer, sweating.
"WELCOME!" Dastardly_devil booms jovially, and then gestures at a sign on the wall. "Here are the rules:"
The sign lists:
-No play
-No touching another without consent
-No kinkshaming
-Keep the name tag on.
"If you're too shy to talk," He continues. "I can introduce you. If you have any questions or troubles, come talk to me!"
Gathering some courage, the shy guy ventures, "...What does 'no play' mean?"
The confident friend is eagerly filling out a name tag as Dastardly_devil answers, "Play is when people practice BDSM or kink. This event is a munch, it's only for meeting and talking."
"See," The confident friend says as they affix the name tag to the shy person. "I told ya!"
Looking somewhat relieved but still sweating, the shy friend answers, "Oh, Ok..."
Draping themself over their shy friend, the extrovert bemoans, "There's only play events in our town. We haven't dared go yet."
"Ah, it can be intimidating. But a munch is a good place to start!" The devil encourages.
"Wish it was closer though..." Groans the extroverted person.
"You could always make your own event, you know." Suggests Dastardly_devil.
"EEEEEH, REALLY?" They answer.
Page 2
Caption: #1 LOCALE
The two newbies follow Dastardly_devil as he leads them through the bar, explaining, "A munch is just a meetup for kinky people! It can be as simple as reserving a table at a bar or restaurant. I like to have a space separate from the rest of the bar, so people can feel safe talking about kink without worrying about being overheard."
A caption floats over a cross-section of the two-story bar, stating: Here's how I organise my event: I reserve the second floor of the bar, every first Tuesday of the month. We usually get around 60 people.
Dastardly_devil pops into the panel from the side, explaining, "I post the event on Fetlife."
Caption: I sit at the entrance to greet people and explain the rules. The rest of the bar is open as usual, so people have name tags to know who is here for the munch. Then I walk around to chat and check up on people.
Looking over the balcony's handrail, the outgoing person asks, "But isn't hosting this at someone's place easier to avoid drawing attention?"
"You can," He agrees. "but being in a public place allows for less pressure. People can come and go as they please here."
Page 3
Caption: #2 STRUCTURE
As they continue walking around the bar, patrons greet each other and chat.
"Next you'll want to think about how to organise your event!" Continues Dastardly_devil.
"Do I have to lead the conversation?" The shy guy asks, nervously.
"There's plenty of ways to do it!" He replies enthusiastically. "For example:"
A series of signs are taped to the wall, announcing:
"Free for all - people talk to whomever they wish."
"Bring toys for show and tell."
"People submit questions to be picked and discussed."
"Have a theme for the day."
"Do an introduction circle!"
"Is the event centered on a specific kink or community? (latex, shibari, etc.)
With a drink freshly acquired at the bar counter, Dastardly_devil explains, "Play events are a different beast to tackle, lots more things to think about. My munch is: Everyone is welcome, free for all, and toys allowed upstairs for show only."
"Ooooh!" The two newbies exclaim as they read the signs and wait for their own drinks.
"You also have to set a date!" He points out. "Making an event regular is important to cultivate community. It makes it easier for people to form bonds."
The shy guy takes a sip of their drink while the extrovert spots an old friend.
"HEEEYY!!" The reuniting friends squeal at each other.
Page 4
Caption: #3: COMMUNITY"
"What about people who are too shy to talk?" The introverted person asks, hanging back as their companion and the returning friend talk enthusiastically with each other.
Taking a sip from his drink, he answers, "Ideally, participants will do their part to integrate newcomers. You can cultivate that atmosphere. For a community to thrive, people need to feel welcomed and safe. Greeting everyone, introducing people to tables if they wish it, and checking up on people is my way to do that." Frustration falls over his face and his grip on his glass tightens. "Making sure everyone knows basic consent is the most important. Should be taught in #%$ school..." He mutters to himself, the glass cracking under the strain of his grip.
Not noticing the devil's restraint, the shy guy keeps his eyes on his drink as he asks, "You must get a lot of stupid questions from newbies..."
"There are no stupid questions!" The devil announces with passion, striking a determined stance.
"O... ok..." Gulps the shy guy.
Returning to his composed state, the devil leans against the bar, musing, "...It can be a lot." His cracked class leaks liquid onto the countertop. "You get attention. Being an organiser means becoming a public figure. That brings social clout, but also responsibility and scrutiny. How you wield that power will reflect on you and your event."
Page 5
"But, an event isn't just about the organiser!" He continues, completely back to his normal, friendly demeanor. "It's the people who make a community successful. Think about what kind of event you'd like to go to, how you'd like to be engaged, and go from there."
"But what if I'm too awkward to bring people together?" Frets the shy guy.
Gesturing at himself, Dastardly_devil asserts, "If I can, so can you! I had never hosted one before. I was the shy nerd who didn't know how to talk to people. (still am!) I wanted a place where you could meet friends, talk about kink and sex, and be yourself. Three years later, the community here has been fantastic. I've made many friends I would have never met otherwise."
"There you are!" The extroverted friend says, clasping their hand on the shy guy's shoulder and then looping their arm through their's to drag them off to join a group of chatting people. "Come say hi!"
"(Thanks!)" The shy guy whispers to the devil as they're pulled to join the group.
Transcribed by Erika Moen on September 28, 2026 for https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/how-to-organise-a-munch-dastardly-devil
